Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder… of the things that matter
June 26, 2009
So its been quite some time since either of us have written a blog. Unfortunately, work commitments have kept me overly occupied. Fear not, I intend to write more once those commitments die down a bit.
Well we may have been quiet on the blog but that isnt to say we have been quiet in real life!
A lot has happened since the last post. We stopped having sex altogether after having a very honest discussion about wants and needs and feelings. He was comfortable with BDSM but not with sex. I handed over the reins of that completely and promised to keep my hands to myself to allow him the space he needed to get his head around things. wow, did that change things!
3 months of abstinence kind of drove me crazy, but at the same time it seemed to help me slow down my brain and begin to really enjoy the smaller things so much more. It reminded me of when I was first discovering my sexuality. It was more pure, more exciting, and most important, more loving. Despite the the absence of sex, the knowledge I gleaned from our heart to heart meant I no longer felt insecure about about what the lack of sex meant. I cant stress enough the of important complete honesty and openness is in a relationship!
So sex is back on the agenda, and while its still a rare treat for me, at least I know he isnt doing it only because he feels he has to. It may not be as often as I’d ideally like but I feel I have calmed down and now it is easier to go without it – its more important to me that he is comfortable and happy. I dont want him to touch me to keep me happy, I want him to WANT to explore my body, to be be turned on and driven to touch me. I want HIM to enjoy touching me. Mind you, I said he could have all the time in the world he needed and I would wait, but that he couldn’t just use that as an escape route to never have sex again. He could have all the time he needed on condition he worked on his issues, and of course he was OK with that, he even said it would be disrespectful not to. So that meant my worries about our sex life pretty much faded into the background. I felt so much more secure and patient in the knowledge and the intimacy that such a deep, heart felt talk provided… Now all we need to do is help get him to a place where he enjoys and wants it (as much as me hehe).
June 26, 2009 at 2:44 pm
“…he hath reserved under darkness in everlasting chains, unto the judgement of the great day.
As Sodom and Gomorrha and the neighboring cities, in like manner, having given themselves to FORNICATION and going after OTHER FLESH, were made an example, suffering the punishment of eternal fire.” Jude, paragraphs 6 and 7.
“But before they went to bed, the men of the CITY beset the house both YOUNG AND OLD, ALL the PEOPLE together.
And they called Lot, and said to him: where are the men that came in to thee at night? Bring them out hither that we may know them.” (This is from Genesis 19, paragraphs 4 and 5 regarding the cities of Sodom and Gomorrha)
There are several references in the Old and New Testaments about the evils of the ancient cities of Sodom and Gomorrha. The two referenced above clearly demonstrate that in those cities evils spoken of were not just homosexuality but immoral sexual lusts of several natures. St. Jude mentions fornication (as the type of heterosexual copulation between a man and a woman which is against God’s Law) and going after other flesh. Other flesh is homosexuality, likely pedophilia, and possibly beastiality. In Genesis it is mentioned that Lot’s house was beset by the men of the city, both YOUNG and OLD, ALL the people together. God destroyed the entire city because all of the people were guilty of horrible sexual sin and all of the people included men, women, and children.
Therefore, it is very obvious that where one sin begins, a similar sin of like nature often follows. For example, in a marital conflict, if a man becomes constantly very angry at his wife, this anger can lead to violence and repeated violence can lead to serious violence and serious violence to possibly murder. Immoral sin of the flesh is no different. As humans, we are never completely sexually satisfied and when we over-ride our moral consciouces, we may experiment with immoral sexual practices. Since we are never sexually satisfied, once the “new thrill” wears off, we may again go more beyond our moral consciouces and try even more deviant sex (pedophilia, sadomasachism, beastiality, etc.) This is a twisted psychological state. And unless you are willfully blinded, it is clear in Luke and Genesis that in Sodom and Gomorrha; the people of those cities, at a minimum, were committing acts of fornication, homosexuality, and pedophilia.
In summary, at this time, the world is teaching us and our innocent children that homosexuality should be considered normal, acceptable, and commedable. Soon, unless we all speak up, there will be laws that carry severe punishment for anyone who mentions that acts like homosexuality are morally wrong. Unless we speak up NOW, pedophilia will be deemed, by law, an acceptable lifestyle. We all need to protect our children and if we do not speak up, we will be guilty and responsible for what happens to us as a society and for what happens to our children.
June 26, 2009 at 3:24 pm
thanks for the spam. I believe sex is a gift from God and he wanted loving couples to enjoy it.
I also believe being gay has nothing to do with paedophelia. How you could link the two has me dumbfounded. Or that it will be legalised. What evidence do you have to make such a sweeping statement?
You should familiarise yourself with the BDSM scene’s motto: “safe, sane and consensual” thus anything with beings unable to give consent (kids, animals) is not OK. There is a BIG difference between kinky and harmful sexual practices.
Your reasoning about never being sexually satisified and always seeking more is hilarious. Should I never eat food becuase I am never satisfied and always want to try different foods? more and more exotic? asian spicy foods… whats next?!
Really, lighten up and get a pass time other than spamming people. or spend your time building a decent, logical argument before you spam! but hey, thanks for the laugh.